- there’s nothing wrong with feeling demotivated, so please don’t punish yourself for that – everyone, even the most successful people in the world, can fall into a slump
- you can do it
- i believe in you
- it’s not going to be as bad as you think
- don’t place too high expectations on yourself, especially when you’re feeling low
- set small and specific goals – little steps are always important
- print out or write down what you need to do and put that note where you know you’re going to see it
- set yourself a specific time for when you’re going to start working on something, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself if you’re unable to
- see what others are doing and achieving, and use that as motivation instead of comparing yourself to them and putting yourself down
- call for help from others to cheer you on when you can’t do it on your own
- counter your negative thoughts with positive ones
- think about the benefits of doing the task, instead of the difficulties it will take to get there
- take deep breaths and take a step back when things become too overwhelming or the stress takes over (here’s a written breathing exercise, or a gif you can breathe along with)
- take breaks, don’t overload yourself
- if you think that your schedule is becoming more and more of the same thing every single day, that can heavily impact your motivation - so try your best to try something new, or even just do something that you would usually do in a different way, or with a different outlook; it doesn’t matter if the change you make is big or small, because every attempt goes towards progress
- when you’ve completed what you needed to, or even just worked at it a little bit, make sure to congratulate yourself, because you’re trying and i’m so proud of you for that
- try your best, because your best is good enough
- you got this
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gentle reminder for when you feel demotivated
50 things present-me would tell senior-in-high-school-me:
- You’re gonna change your mind about your major.
- Seriously, just pick Accounting.
- At the very least, save yourself from playing credits catch-up later on by not taking just 4 classes one semester, and putting off most of the gen. ed requirements till your junior year
kthanks - You don’t need to have a friend with you to go to school clubs. Would be nice to have them there, but they don’t want to make time for it and you do. So DO IT!
- Don’t freak out too much about being involved either. You already saw in high school how doing so does nothing good for you.
- You’re gonna go to therapy. Might as well do it now instead of waiting till the second semester.
- If you want a gap year, take it. Doesn’t matter if all your other friends are doing college in the Fall, you’ll soon discover that they will all start going down different paths anyway.
- You’re a commuter, so spend more time on campus!
- Get your license before going!!
- Follow up with people. Those girls from that sorority who reached out to you could’ve been some great networks/friends.
- Re-discover your interests. Refresh your mind on Korean, start that blog, or just read for enjoyment again.
- Go to the gym!!
- Don’t eat all that junk food. You were doing so well with the diet change :’(
- You will find your purpose and motivation among all this commotion. Don’t worry.
- There will be many presentations. And you will do just fine.
- Ditch that one annoying kid. No, he is not slightly awkward yet kind. He is a self-proclaimed “nice guy” who will creep you out multiple times before crossing the line.
- Don’t even look in his direction during orientation.
- Don’t be afraid to make friends with the international kids.
- Sure, they hang out mostly among themselves… and it still intimidates a bit now… but just go for it! There are some cool people you’ll meet later on.
- Study by yourself. Take up the invites to study with friends, but do most of it alone because the whole group method isn’t working so well.
- Say hi to the people you sit next to on the first day.
- Large gaps between classes actually suck. Have them closer together, except for lunch/dinner times.
- You actually like having 3-4 classes in one day. It frees up most of the week for work, fun, or studying, and it feels good to be busy.
- Put part of your paychecks in your savings, dammit.
- Get close to your favorite professors.
- Don’t fill out the FAFSA last minute.
- Don’t feel bad about being waitlisted for your first choice. This one’s much better ;)
- Most of your fears towards dorming and going out of state for college ended up not being true. It would still cost a lot of money, but you would have definitely been “worth it.”
- You can still grow as a person despite being a commuter.
- Seriously. Plus, the people around you will remind you how jealous they are of the perks that come with it.
- You are going to study abroad, and you’re gonna love every second of it.
- You will get over your fear of needles!
About time - Make time for dating and fun romance-y things.
- You’re gonna face and overcome things you thought you never would. Be proud.
- Travel by yourself. Don’t wait around for other people to tag along. You are ready, and its not that hard.
- Do allll the extra credit.
- Take that drawing class.
- Don’t minor in Psychology.
- Actually go ahead, those were some interesting and useful classes. Just don’t expect to stick with it. You won’t have space for all the requirements in your schedule.
- Don’t be afraid to do things that interest you by yourself. Literally no one is watching you, or waiting to see you fail.
- Attend some workshops.
- Get that LinkedIn account set up.
- You will have some rude and sarcastic professors. Just ride out the wave of cringe it occasionally sets upon the classroom.
- Don’t walk to class with your phone stuck to your face. Admire your surroundings.
ooh nature - Do important things face to face, like submitting a scholarship application. Sometimes technology just fails us. >:(
- Online textbooks are the way to go.
- You don’t need friends in every class, but you need someone to contact about homework when you miss a day.
- Sometimes classes during holidays are necessary.
- Studying doesn’t stop when you’re let out for breaks.
- You can have good grades AND fun!
thanks for reading! What would you tell your young teenage-self?;
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